Supporting your child's transition to a new school or class: A SEN parent's guide
This episode of Raising Confident Kids with SEN is such a dear one to my heart because it resonates with so many of us as parents. We're diving into the topic of transition, and how to support our children as they start a new school or class. Whether it’s moving from preschool to primary, or simply switching classes, times of change can bring a mix of excitement and uncertainty for so many. So, let’s talk about what we can do to make this transition smoother for our kids, especially those with special educational needs (SEN). You can find the episode on streaming services, and via this link: [link]
Our own parental emotions
First things first, let's acknowledge our own feelings. I vividly remember when my girls started school. The questions running through my mind were endless: Will they make friends? Will they eat their lunch? Will there be tears at the door? And then there was my own emotional tug, as I watched my tiny, cuddly children grow up. It’s natural to feel this mixture of excitement and anxiety. Remember, your feelings are valid, and being aware of them can help you better support your children.
Navigating your child’s emotions
Our children, especially those with additional needs, can find transitions tricky. They too may feel excited, nervous, or overwhelmed, but how can we make this easier for them? The key lies in two fundamental elements: connection and predictability.
Connection: The emotional anchor
Connection is about providing a secure anchor for our children. This usually comes from us, their primary caregivers. When our kids feel emotionally safe, they are more likely to venture out, try new things, and feel confident. So, how do we bolster this connection?
Quality time: Spend time with your child. This doesn’t mean that you have to be available 24/7, I know that feels impossible especially for us working parents. But it's important to find moments in your day when you can be fully present – during breakfast, bedtime, or even a relaxed weekend walk.
Emotional refueling: Let your child know that you are their safe harbour. Encourage them to come to you when they need emotional support. Sometimes just being there and showing up as present, even if they choose not to engage, can make all the difference.
Predictability: The safety net
Predictability helps kids feel secure because they know what to expect. It doesn’t mean you have to keep things the same all the time, you can help your child by showing what’s coming up in their routine.
Visual tools: Create a weekly calendar with simple drawings that show the key events of each day. Start by adding pictures one day at a time and gradually build up to a week. You can include things like who will be picking them up, which often provides significant reassurance.
Consistency: Talk to them about what will stay the same amidst the changes. It could be small things like their bed, favourite breakfast, or even the route to school. Highlighting these constants can make the new elements less daunting.
Using books to navigate change
One of my favourite tools for transitions is exploring books together. Reading provides a safe way to discuss feelings without being confrontational. Books about starting school or those featuring school environments can serve as great conversation starters.
Storytime: Use this as a calming, cuddly time that reassures your child.
Character exploration: Discuss the characters’ feelings and how they handle changes. This indirect approach can help your child articulate their own emotions.
Sensory calming tools for school journeys
Another tip I share in this episode is to have a sensory tool kit for car journeys. Keeping little hands and minds busy can help regulate emotions and reduce anxiety as they approach school. This kit might include fiddle toys, colouring books, or small puzzles. Think about what works best for your child and keep a variety of items in the car for your transitional journeys.
Reflect and connect
As we prepare for these transitions for our children, I encourage you to take a few minutes to reflect on the connection points you can establish with your child. How can you make sure they feel your presence and support? Is it reading together, playing, or simply having a longer chat during bedtime? These moments will lay the foundation for your child’s confidence as they step into their new environment.
A handy resource: The Confident Transitions Pack
I want to end by sharing a resource that I've created for you: The Confident Transitions Pack. It’s a downloadable tool available on my website, filled with handy tips, visual aids, and videos to help your child adjust to new classes or schools. You can find it at confidentkids.co/shop
I wish all your amazing kids the best of luck as they step into their new classes and schools. Here's to a smooth and confident start to the academic year!